Can't or Won't

I am loving these sunny days!

I occasionally hear one of you say you "can't" do something. Usually that is the wrong contraction, and "won't" would be the better choice if you want to be precise. I would much rather have you tell me you won't do something I ask you to do than tell me you can't. I have a pretty good idea of what you can do. If you tell me you won't, we can have a discussion, and you may have a very good reason why you won't do something. Maybe I'll convince you, and maybe you will convince me.  "Can't" is so passive. "Won't" implies that you have a reason, and perhaps a rational one. When you want to say, "I can't", think a moment about whether "I won't" is really more accurate.